5 ways to beat body images issues for good

As a mother of three, I know what it feels like to struggle with body image. I’ve been there—looking in the mirror and feeling disconnected from the person staring back. But one thing I know for sure? I never want my daughter—or you—to feel that way.

Body image is something many of us wrestle with, but I want to share five powerful mindset shifts that have helped me feel more at home in my body. Let’s get into it.

1. Your Body Is Not Your Worth

This one is everything. Your body is not your identity. Your worth is not measured by your shape, size, or how you look in the mirror.

For a long time, my body was my identity. It felt like a reflection of my discipline and efforts. Then, I became a mother. And when my body didn’t “bounce back” the way I expected, it shook me.

I had to sit with myself and ask:
— Who am I beyond my body?
— What do I value?
— Why do people love me?

And I want you to ask yourself the same. Because I promise—no one loves you for your body. They love you for who you are.

Yes, taking care of your body is important, but it’s the least interesting thing about you. When you're gone, people won’t remember your body fat percentage or how toned your arms were. They’ll remember how you made them feel, the love you shared, and the impact you had.

2. Stand in the Mirror & Practice Self-Acceptance

This exercise changed everything for me, and I want you to try it.

Instead of standing in the mirror picking apart your “flaws,” focus on what you love about yourself. Speak gratitude over your body.

I used to hate my thighs and compare myself to others. But when I shifted my mindset, I started seeing my body for what it does—not just how it looks.

After having children, I realized how miraculous my body truly is. It stretched to grow life, it carried me through long nights, it adapted and healed. That shift in perspective changed the way I treated myself.

So every day, take a moment in front of the mirror. Look at yourself with kindness. Speak love. Acknowledge your strengths. With time, this practice becomes second nature.

3. Stop Comparing

Listen, we all do it. But comparison is the thief of joy.

I used to compare my body to others—especially those with a completely different body type than mine. I wanted long, lean legs like a dancer, but that’s not how I’m built.

Here’s the thing: we’re all unique. You were never meant to look like someone else. Instead of chasing someone else’s physique, focus on becoming your strongest, healthiest, happiest version.

Your body is yours for a reason. Honor it.

4. Stop Negative Self-Talk in Its Tracks

We don’t always realize how much power our words have—especially the ones we say to ourselves.

How often do you catch yourself thinking:
— “I feel so bloated.”
— “I don’t look my best today.”
— “I’m not enough.”

But here’s the thing: what you focus on expands. If you focus on what you dislike, that’s what you’ll keep seeing. If you choose to focus on gratitude, confidence, and strength, that’s what will grow.

During my pregnancies, I had moments of frustration with my body. But instead of sitting in those thoughts, I’d remind myself: “My body is doing something incredible. I am strong. I am capable. I am grateful.”

Reframe the way you talk to yourself, and watch how your mindset shifts.

5. Change Your Lens

One of the most powerful things we can do is shift our perspective.

After having my third child, I broke down during a walk with my husband. I felt exhausted, disconnected from my body, and frustrated that despite all my efforts, nothing seemed to be changing.

My husband looked at me and said something I’ll never forget:
"Instead of feeling discouraged, what if you asked yourself—what am I supposed to learn from this? How can this experience help me grow?"

At first, I didn’t want to hear it. But eventually, I realized he was right. That moment changed everything for me.

Instead of beating myself up, I started learning from my body. I dove deeper into hormone health, gut balance, and the mind-body connection. And from that shift, my entire approach to wellness evolved.

You always have the power to change your lens. You are not a victim of your body—you are its greatest ally.

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